“It is necessary for me, sometimes, to just be alone and quiet and doing nothing.” Charles Bukowski, one of my favorite poets, once wrote this.
On the days that I am alone, these words from Bukowski, sound like music playing in my mind.
Today was a great example. I went on a walk today, by myself. I’ve come to learn that it is healthy to be alone at times. It is also freeing: for the mind, for the heart, and for the soul. Just like you spend time with the people you love, you have to spend time with yourself. You have to love to learn about yourself. You can’t always do that when you are around others. At times, your heartbeat can drown in the noise and you can’t hear what your heart is saying to you. Likewise, your mind can be preoccupied and too chaotic to the point that you can’t understand your thoughts.
When you are around too many distractions, you can lose yourself. You can forget about your soul. You can forget about your heart. You can forget about your mind. Overall, you can forget about you.
It is important to learn how to be alone. During the time that I spent alone on the walk, I reflected on some things that I had placed in the back of my mind. Doing that can place a burden on you. You have no idea how much burying things in the back of your mind can subconsciously affect you. You need to listen to yourself.
Introspection is important. It is essential to observe your own emotional processes. Self-awareness is important. You need to look inside of you in order to learn more about you. If you can’t do that, then it will be extremely hard to be in touch with your soul. And, you need your soul as much as your soul needs you.
When you are soul-searching, you will learn how important it is to be yourself. You will learn more about who you are. You will learn about how you love. You will understand your value. When you learn about yourself, who you are, and what you want, you will make better decisions. You will feel more at peace. You will only accept love from others, nothing less. If you are going through life without knowing more about yourself, then you will most likely make decisions that are not good for your soul and for your well-being.
Are you your own friend?
This is an important question to ask yourself. Make yourself the person who you would want to become best friends with. Don’t stop learning about yourself. There are always so many undiscovered places. You are like the ocean, with depths greater than you can imagine. You will never fully learn about yourself. But, you can keep discovering layers and layers.
Go on walks alone. Sit in silence. Listen to music that calms you. Do something, anything, that makes you feel at peace with yourself. Do anything that allows you to learn more about who you are. Be your own friend. Go ahead, be alone. You need it…sometimes.