Ironically even the most honest and purest of all ‘love’ is now being faked with ease. This one is quite tricky, differentiating a real relationship from one which stinks of lust, betrayal or just convenience.
The real relationship requires lots of efforts, your raw emotions, and honesty. Affair sounds to be an easy deal but a real relationship is always better than the fake one in long run. Those who just want to get in your pants don’t have the balls to put in the efforts. Loyalty is not everyone’s cup of tea.
Not everyone who says those cheesy words actually loves you. Love requires efforts and not everyone is ready for that. People can manipulate you and give you the feeling that they are the one for you and their love is true while all they want is to get in your pants or maybe they just don’t want to be alone.
5 Signs He Doesn’t Love You, You Are Just Convenient.
1. You don’t know each other’s family or friends
I’ve been in love once, I wanted to climb up the highest tower in my city and tell the whole world how much I loved her. Okay, that is Insanity and you don’t need to do that in love but any person who is serious about you will try to make you part of his life, he will want you to meet his friends and family so that you get to know each other and be comfortable around.
He will never do this unless he sees a future with you but if he does it means, he sees you in his future and wants you to know what life around him is like.
Not introducing you to parents or friends even after months of a relationship can only mean two things, he doesn’t see a future with you and wants to break up or he was never interested in you, it was all for sexual gains.
If neither of you ever thought of this then maybe you didn’t really have any affection at all and may be what you both wanted all along was physical intimacy.
2. There are no exceptional memories
Love is an exceptional feeling and if you feel anything less than amazing, is it even love? If your relationship is like any other day of your single life and there isn’t anything that touches you or makes you laugh or give you any special feeling that cannot be a real relationship.
There has to be something, anything! The times you laughed together at silly jokes, some silly nicknames or anything. It doesn’t need to be a big event or adventure, any small moment that brought you closer is special. The moments that remind you of them, like if you see a post or meme on facebook and it reminds you of them and you tag them.
It can be a post about a movie or a meme about any incident which you can relate to. It’s that simple. If nothing is happening, well there is nothing really happening then. If sex is what your memories are limited to, you should know it is nowhere near real relationship.
3. Poor communication
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. If you don’t remember when was the last time you both talked to each other heart to heart, pouring everything out, you’re not really in love. You got to know what’s happening in your partner’s life.
You ought to have those long night conversations once in a while.
If you come to know their how and where about from social media and even their birthday from Facebook, your relationship cannot be real!
It doesn’t mean you need to text them every once in a while but at least text them enough to know what they are up to. You need to have that conversation wherein you both are vulnerable, opening hearts out to each other. Your conversations shouldn’t be limited what sexual adventure you fantasize or anything that revolves around sex, love is much more than that.
4. Sex above all.
This is the obvious one. If Sex is the only thing that makes you feel connected with each other, you two are passionate and hot for each other in bed but when it comes to communication you are clueless. If sex is the only thing that makes you feel in sync or connected then you are not in a real relationship.
A real relationship is about true and raw emotions, passion, love, trust and not just passion in bed, they have a different term for that ‘Friends with benefit’. As stated earlier fake relationships are mostly for getting in your pants and those who want to get in leave no stone unturned.
They will pretend to have fallen head over heels and for you make you feel like on top of the world with all the romantic flirting and cheesy stuff. Know that all stuff they say to make you feel good and win over you at the beginning is not for sake of love.
If you guys put sex over true emotions and, if you share bed more than you share your feelings, your relationship is fake.
5. Ego is greater than love
As you walk in through the door of love, the first thing you do is take off your ego along with your shoe. Because letting go ego is essential for any relationship. If being always right matters more than who your partner feels, there is something wrong with the relationship.
If one can go to any extent just to prove their point regardless of what their partner feels, it clearly means their ego is bigger than their love.
In a relationship, you need to understand your partner’s feelings and respect it. Maybe they are wrong at times and maybe there is something bothering them that triggered the rude reactions but this where real relationships beat the fake ones.
In a real relationship, you will step down and end the argument regardless of who is right whereas in a fake relationship you are ready to walk out of the relationship for your ego’s sake. If a person can let go their ego and admit a fault they did not even commit, just for you, there is no other person more right for you than this one.