Oh, have you heard that there are emotionally broken men as well?
Well, I haven’t seen many. But that is probably because of the society.
Our society puts so much pressure on men to be and act like men that they almost forget to experience and indulge in emotions. They become so masculine that emotions aren’t even a part of their everyday life. They forget to show hurt or care or even sometimes they forget to show any signs of stress. But the problem isn’t in the men; it is in our society that trains them to be like ‘men’.
Hence proved, men have emotions.
Also proved, men don’t show emotions.
So, this further proves that there are men who are emotionally broken. They live in our society and try to somehow deal with their pain silently yet gallantly.
Again, because society makes them do so.
And these emotionally broken men obviously love in a different way as well. Here we bring you some ways in which an emotionally broken man loves differently:
1) Problems, what is that:
The emotionally broken man has seen it all. He knows what it means to be broken and to get up again and still live life as if everything were normal. He knows how to wake up every day with problems and still show as if nothing is ever wrong. So for the emotionally broken men, the problem is an everyday phenomenon.
They have actually reached a point where problems are the ‘normal’ of their life. Now, their reaction to problems is certainly different. This means that their reaction to problems is that there isn’t any problem at all. If you are with them and ask them about their problems, they will not start a rant about what they have been going through.
In fact, they will just dismiss your question and ask you about your issues and troubles. The thing is that these men feel just like all of us do but they don’t express like all of us. This is why it is difficult to heal them as well because they don’t even recognize their problems.
2) He seems to know what he wants:
On the outside, it seems like the emotionally broken man exactly knows what he wants. But does he? Does he have everything together? Perhaps, no. The emotionally broken man is just good at keeping up the pretense of having everything sorted.
He will always behave as if he has the solutions to all the problems that exist but inside him, he is obviously broken. He may show that he is complete and fulfilled but internally he is so broken and unfulfilled that you cannot even fathom.
So, if you think he knows what he wants, it only ‘seems’ so. In actuality, he doesn’t know a lot of things and he is also figuring out the things he doesn’t know but somehow he has mastered the pretense of knowing his path and shows as if he is super confident on his journey even though he may not even be sure of the small things he needs.
3) Sometimes, he is cold:
Even the most rigid people, sometimes break. Yes, this is also true for the emotionally broken man. As good as he is at keeping the pretense of being sure-footed and confident, the thing is that sometimes even he tries to show emotions.
But the way he shows emotions is very different. This means that instead of crying and weeping or talking about his feelings, the emotionally broken man just quietly becomes cold. You may also think that he has a mood swing or something but the truth is that he is just numb.
He perhaps has reached a saturation point of feelings and has come to a situation where he isn’t able to have a moment of purgation. What he does instead is that he becomes cold. It is also a reflection of how immune he has become to the things that are going around him. Perhaps, comfortably numb.
4) But he never gives away his emotions:
Even if he is in the deep abyss of pain and sadness, he won’t give away his emotions. His resolve to stay quiet is much stronger than his need to express himself. The society and how men are brought up is to be blamed for this. Men aren’t supposed to cry or shed tears even when they are in extreme pain.
The emotionally broken man has also imbibed this. Moreover, men are supposed to be the backbone or the support system of the family. How can they cry?
Well, these are the things that an emotionally broken man goes through. They are less understood by the society but they exist and mostly exist in pain and sadness.