Have you ever had to let go of a bad relationship before, be it a friendship, a romance, a partnership or even a family member?
Letting go of a bad relationship isn’t always easy, but it doesn’t have to be that hard. Thanks to the Law of Attraction, we get what we think about and expect. If we can find a way to change our thoughts and expectations, we can create the experience of letting go in the most positive way possible.
So, with that being said, here are 5 simple ways to let go of a bad relationship and move on. If you are in the process of moving on, I hope you find them most useful!
1. Stop talking about it
As long as you continue to complain about your crappy ex-boyfriend or talk trash about your ex-best-friend, they will haunt you in your daily thoughts and feelings.
Put down the negative conversations. All they do is keep you attached to a situation you desperately want to move on from.
The rule of thumb is, if it doesn’t inspire you or make you happy, it really isn’t worth discussing because you get what you are focused on. Period.
2. If you must talk about it, put a positive spin on it
Create a new, more positive story about your situation, and keep it handy for unavoidable conversations.
For example, “I really hated her, I’m so glad she’s out of my life!” could become “We had our fun, but right now we are moving in different directions and that’s ok. Maybe things will be different in the future but right now it makes sense to take a break.”
Keep your storytelling positive, and the pain will slowly metamorphous into appreciation for your past.
Your memory of the past and your feelings in the present are highly affected by how you choose to interpret past events. Choose to put a positive spin on the negative, and you’ll move into your future on the right foot.
3. Remind yourself that when one door closes, another opens
It can be hard to lose a marriage, a partnership, a family member or a friendship-really hard! Loss can be very painful, even when the relationship wasn’t that good. However, it can be helpful to remind yourself that losing something leaves you available to receive something else.
There will be a time when a new, improved relationship presents itself to you. Look forward to meeting the next person the universe plans on delivering to you when the time is right.
4. Step into the “new you.”
Getting over the past is much easier when you make a break with the “old you.” Letting go is often easier when you feel like it’s a whole new chapter in your life, not just the old chapter minus the relationship.
So, in the spirit of change, try a new hairstyle, revamp your apartment or take up a new hobby.
Create the feeling of this being a new, fresh start. It’s a lot easier to move on from the past when it feels like you’ve moved into the future.
5. Give yourself something to look forward to
When we wallow in loss, sometimes we get stuck. Life can seem listless and boring, and this can cause lethargy and sadness.
So, when it’s time to let go of a bad relationship, making room for fun and excitement is a really good idea. Give yourself a reason to look forward to your future.
Plan a trip or schedule some time to knock a few things off your bucket list. Times of change are the perfect time to treat yourself with big plans.
6. Avoid things that remind you of the past (at least while the wound is fresh!)
When it’s time to let go, it’s a good idea to minimize your exposure to past memories, in order to give yourself time to heal.
A few ideas might be removing pictures from your home that remind you of your past relationship. You might also choose to “unfollow” this person on social media, or stop frequenting places that remind you of them.
The more you dwell on the past, the more painful it is. Give yourself a chance to get over it, and distract yourself from anything that reminds you of once was. You can come back to the memories once you’ve got a solid footing in your new life.
Remember, letting go of a bad relationship doesn’t have to be a long, drawn-out process. Though it’s likely to be initially painful, if you take deliberate steps to move on in a positive way, letting go can be relatively easy.