Depression is Not Sadness

Depression is not sadness. It is emptiness. Depression is not being unhappy, it is being numb. It is not anger or desperation or fear or even loneliness (though it is also all of these things.) Depression is not a feeling. It is nothingness. A void where nothing grows or changes, where time does not exist, where dark is the only color, where...

We Fall in Love many Times in our Life, but we Rarely Love like This

In the past, I mixed up the term “falling in love” with the word “love.” For me, any romantic experience used to fall under the label of love. My quest for an appropriate definition of love is ongoing, but now I can at least form an idea of what it is. And I was wrong before—falling in love with someone...

Seven Ways to Stop Breaking our own Hearts

How many times have we said out loud, “He/she broke my heart,” or “It breaks my heart when…”? The truth is: we break our own hearts. This is a painful truth to face. I’ve lost count how many times my own heart has been broken. I could argue that the breaking of my heart was done to me by another person. I...

10 Important Psychological Concepts People Don’t Understand

Here’s an interesting thing about psychology: For the most part, everyone, regardless of their educational background, feels like an expert in the field. This is not true of, say, biochemistry, geochemical engineering, or astrophysics. As someone who both studies human psychology from a scientific standpoint for a living — and as a person who simply wants to understand what’s up...

Why Entitled People Will Disregard Rules That Others Follow

Now this is interesting — especially in today's culture: A new study has found that some people, who see themselves as special or entitled in some way that others are not, are more likely to disregard ordinary instructions or the usual “order” of things, which most others will accept and follow. Researchers who explored this topic found that the...

Psychopaths Don’t Care If They Hurt You

A key feature of psychopathy is insensitivity to causing harm in others. Researchers have long attempted to understand why people high in psychopathy have this emotional blind spot. A recent investigation by University of Padova (Italy) psychologist Carolina Pletti and colleagues (2017) tested a new model to provide insight into the reasons why those high in psychopathy fail to...

Five Depression Myths We Need to Stop Believing Today

Depression, like art, can never be adequately described in words alone, though Andrew Solomon (link is external) comes close in his memoir Noonday Demon: "I felt as though I had a physical need, of impossible urgency and discomfort, from which there was no release — as though I were constantly vomiting but had no mouth. My vision began to close....

Don’t Let the Bully Win

We all know a bully — someone who creates an atmosphere of intimidation. Someone whom everyone is afraid of, and who might transgress against any member of the community at the drop of a hat. Someone who talks badly about so many, and who creates such an air of intimidation that people are afraid to speak up. You know one,...

Seven Surprising Reasons You’re Attracting Toxic People

Do you have toxic people in your life? Do they influence you in detrimental ways? Do they leave you feeling manipulated or bad about yourself after every encounter? If so, you’re probably wondering how things got to be this way. Despite your positive attitude and approach to life, you find yourself unexpectedly surrounded by negativity. It might not occur to...

Why a Smarter Man Should Be a Better Partner

Having a partner who will be faithful is certainly one of the most desirable goals anyone can have in a long-term relationship. If only you could predict whether a current or prospective partner will fulfill this goal, how much simpler and happier your life would be. A new study by Jaako Aspara and colleagues (2018), of the Hanken School...

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